Ask Annie: Long Distance Relationships

marc said...



Help with a long distance relationsip? well kinda?


theres this girl who ive known for only about 6 months or so (but it really feels like years). and well shes a friend of one of my friends and i ended up getting her number. I really liked her even the from the first day, but we both stayed friends (reallllly close friends) and i was still happy with it because talking and texting her is like my favorite thing to do!!!! shes so sweet and down to earth, and we tell each other A LOT. not just saying that, i mean we can talk about anything!! my dad passed away about a year ago, and shes the only person who i would ever open up to something like that. Anyway, so i obviously really fell in love with her and she says that she loves me too (not fake love, i mean i know im young, but i want to spend the rest of my life with her).....but first of all i NEVER see her. Seriously. so we obviously cant go out or anything because you cant have a relationship over the phone!!!!! and to make it all that much worse.....shes moving to boston, which is a few hundred miles away. i really dont know what to do with myself because ive never cared so much about anyone, and my chances of actually getting to spend time with her....is really fading. any advice world?



Dear Marc,


First loves are always great and it sounds to me like you are there. The fact that you feel so strongly about her and your concern over her move tells me that you care deeply. From what I gathered, however, it sounds like she does not know how you TRULY feel.



You mentioned that you both say you love each other, but it sounds like you are still left wondering what it all means. Since you don’t get to see this girl, but you spend a lot of time talking to her, why not tell her how you feel? Let her know how much you care about her and how her moving to Boston is something that is really bothering you because you are going to miss her so much. If you have trouble telling her how you feel, send her an email so you can take your time with it and make sure you say everything you want to say.



If she responds positively, then you know this may be something special and it could be something the two of you could work out, despite the distance between you. Long distance relationships are tough, but if you are both very committed to one another, it could be something great. If she seems distant or responds negatively to you, then you will know that she doesn’t feel the same way and it wasn’t meant to be.
Good luck with everything!

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