Ask Annie: Friends Zone

ADAM said...

If a girl says as friends what does she really mean?
we dated before but broke up because i read her email by mistake and she doesn't think i can trust her so i asked her if we can walk dogs together and she said as friends. does she just want to be friends or do i have to be her friend to earn her trust again and then go back out with her


Dear Adam,


Your story was a bit confusing so I am just going to break it all down: OK, so you went out with a girl who is one of your good friends. You guys broke up because she found out you read one of her emails which she did not authorize. Now that you are no longer together, you are friends, but you would like to be more. You asked her to spend time together (walking dogs) and she said yes, but only as friends.


Assuming this is the correct sequence of events, I would say that in this situation it sounds like this girl views you as just a friend. Now you have two options in this situation: (1) you can play it cool and remain friends in hopes that you can regain her trust and then maybe date her again, or (2) you can tell her how you feel. I realize it is not easy to tell someone you like how you feel, but at least if you put it out there and are honest with her, you won’t have any regrets. Tell her you are sorry for losing her trust, but that you really like her and want another chance to be her boyfriend. She may not be ready to let it happen, but at least you are putting it out there. Good luck!

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